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Language, Manipulation and
Illusions
· Language
· Manipulation
· Illusions
Language,
manipulation and illusions
Language
Human beings
are very creative when it comes to communicate with each other. Normally
people want to communicate. When somebody doesn’t use the various
possibilities in communication anymore, something’s wrong.
That doesn’t
mean you have to be worried when your friend, child, husband or wife
takes some time for him or herself.
But when
someone is quiet for a long time, you might consider to ask what’s going
wrong.
The real
pain, hurt and worries come, when your dear one doesn’t seem to talk the
same language as you are using, while you do use the same words and
sentences. When you get the idée, that you seem to talk to someone from
another planet, when you and your dear-one start to argue when words
like: love, help, friendship, freedom seems to become the root of the
arguing, it might be possible that language manipulation has had a role
in a starting miscommunication.
In cases
where destructive cults have done their work on creating the “invisible
barrier of miscommunication”, this kind of “ not-understanding each
other” will be the beginning of the end of the contact between you and
your dear one.
Many
relationships have been ended by this dangerous kind of language
manipulation, done by destructive cults. The manipulation never touches
the real heart of a person…but it does destroy every possibility to have
a normal loving contact with another person outside the cult…and that
hurts.
In most
destructive cults, it is a common rule not to have emotional bonds with
someone else. Not with someone outside the cult, but also not with
someone inside the cult. That is because cults know that two people are
stronger than one person and when people start to talk about the
inconsistencies they feel within the cult, the structure of the cult is
in danger.
Manipulation
Every day we
are being manipulated: by advertisements, media etc.
But that’s
not the kind of manipulation I’m talking about.
When I write
about manipulation, I’m pointing at a bunch of psycho-tricks that are
able to let people lose their own identity and let their own identity
even being replaced by another one: the so-called:
“cult-identity”.
I would like
to describe the existence of these phenomena as a kind of imperialism.
Ages ago ( and it still happens), mankind had the weird habit to colonise
countries, expel people out of their houses.
Now there
exist structures (cults) that try to expel people out of their heads.
That’s a scary idea…..but it does exist.
It is this
danger I’m talking about, when I write about the possible impact of
coerceived persuasion techniques…or brainwash techniques.
The success
key of this bunch of psycho-tricks, cults use to get people in their
structure and keep them there can be described by the word: “graduality”.
To illustrate
the word “graduality”:
When you
would (not to be done in reality with a real frog please)throw a frog
into hot water, the frog would immediately jump-out of the hot water.
But…if you would put the frog
into a can of warm water, it would stay..enjoying the nice warmth that is
surrounding the it…and if you would gradually heat the water, the frog
would only notice the danger of becoming boiled when it is to late: the
frog will be too down, having too little energy to get out of that can…
Once people are in the closed world of a destructive cult, the
process of isolating them from the rest of the world and the creation of
their new identity and attitude conforming the rules of the cult, will go
on…even more intensive and successful than before.
More successful, because
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they have surrendered,
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have nearly any resistance left and
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they have no possibilities to do any reality
testing (with the family/friends outside the cult) anymore on the
bullshit that is being put into their head.
The closed structure will not allow any real criticism or deep
emotional contact with critical thinking minds outside the cult. They
don’t even want to see any real emotional attachment between the people
within the cult. Why? Well…because this would be a threat to existence of
the cult-structure.
According to the experience of one of my clients, coming from
MOL, the MOL seems to have found a cruel ( I think ) solution to the
sometimes growing attachments between people inside the structure: They
will tell them f. i. that for finding the way “ home”(in MOL-terms this
means god..after-life, according to my understanding of it)they have to
let go of this kind of attachment…Love and friendship are, according to
MOL-principles, just “illusions”. To “help” people let go of their
boy/girl-friend, they’ll give them “ guidance”.
That guidance, although the word itself sounds nice, seems to be in
case of letting go, nothing else than real psychological torture and
abuse. That’s at least how I understand the story of some clients in my
praxis.
There are other cults, known to me, which show a same kind of, what
I think of as a cruel activity like this “guidance
of the MOL”. They also associate that cruelty with a nice
word….And that seems to be..again..a language-manipulation-trick to
create “the invisible barrier of miscommunication”.
Illusions
MOL seems to
call nearly every human feeling or human activity an illusion. Every
little feeling and every little action that has a connection with the
world outside MOL is by my knowledge being labelled as an illusion.
Other cults
cover these activities with another expression for example: “ not being
enlightened yet” as scientology uses.
Whatever word
they give these normal feelings and activities, they all suggest that
these feelings and activities are inferior to the way of life within the
cult and that they will obstruct to reach the “ real” goal in life.
Why would certain
structures do that?
Well: Because
these feelings and activities are connected to your own identity, your
own existence as a human being. This connection between the world outside
the cult and your own identity, stimulated by remembrance of youth, life
as it was before the cult etc….gives people the possibility to do a
reality-testing on everything they do/have “learned” within the cult.
This reality-testing will expose misleading parts of the cult-education
and undermine the impact of brainwash. That fact is a threat for the
existence of any cult-structure.
According to
my perception,
Ocean-spirit ©/Sjoukje
Drenth-Bruintjes,counseler, exitcounseler and sportsconsultant©
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