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A wish
Trying to get someone out
of the destructive influence of a destructive cult,
is not an easy thing to
do. Not even for a professional exit-counseler.
Sometimes I’m working on
it together with a cult-victim.
Sometimes I am educating
family and/or friends in the art of approaching
their loved-one who is
living under the strong influence of destructive cult-tactics.
In both cases I’ve
experienced successes and failures during such
intervention-processes…the
ups and downs of cult intervention.
When everything goes the
way it should go, everybody is hopeful and happy.
Nobody thinks of stopping
the intervention-activity.
But in nearly every
intervention-process, there comes a moment..
or no..more moments, in
which the victim seems inaccessible.
When you still try to
approach at such an inaccessible-state, you’ll meet
the nasty reality of
coerceived persuasion-techniques. You will get the feeling
your head is blown of and
feel the existence of the persistence of
coerceived persuasion
deep in your heart and soul.
Not giving-up on the
person in the cult after such a de-motivating experience
is one of the most
important tools for a possible success, only maybe,
somewhere in the future.
Keeping in mind how deep
coerceived persuasion-techniques can get into
the mind of a human
being, being aware of the way this kind of manipulation
works and internalising
this knowledge into your perception of a shut-down-situation
will help you go through
turbulent times and keep your motivation alive.
This attitude comes
nearly to the same thing as an unconditioned positive loving attitude.
This attitude can be a
healing one, but….the problem of this attitude is, that it can be
a destroying attitude as
well.
Why and how?
Well, I’ll try to explain
this as follows:
Most victims of
coerceived persuasion techniques from a cult, have met the deceiving
love-bombing tactic in
the period they were being recruited for the cult. Once in the
cult they will have met
the period in which love and attention have been replaced by
psychological (and
sometimes also physical) torture. No love..no attention.
They will have been
victimised by the use of “reward”: “love and attention”,
in case of conforming
their attitude towards the rules of the cult and ‘punishment”:
rejection, out casting,
torture, missing love and attention…in case they’re being rebellious
and not conforming their
attitude towards the rules of the cult.
The real love and
attention from someone outside the boundaries of the cult, might trigger
the emotional pain caused
by the deceiving and twisting love-bombing/(psychological) torture
they have experienced
within the cult.
Frustrating….yes….Only
knowledge, persistence and the really same unconditioned positive
attitude
will keep you and the
process going…..according to my perception.
Not the successes or the
failures during the process are crucial for the success of
cult-intervention,
your persistence to go
on…nut to give-up…rooted by internalised knowledge, will and
a nearly unconditioned positive
attitude will be of crucial importance for a possible success
of
cult-intervention….according to my perception.
Sometimes a cult-victim
stays in that so called inaccessible-state…no matter what you do.
Sometimes a barrier of
miscommunication ruins everything you have built up with such a victim.
Sometimes a regular
normal human conflict disturbs the communication and contact for a while.
Maybe your heart will
feel like a heavy stone in your body, maybe it even feels broken…but
please:
Don’t drown in the
frustration and pain of such happenings. Keep on flying!
Be sure to keep your door
open. No matter what happened/happens…just keep your door open.
“ Look into your heart”,
when this isn’t easy…and try to keep on listening to it with a little
help
from the knowledge of the
possible impact of coercived persuasion techniques etc.
Listen! Keep your door
open and what is also real important: Keep on flying!
You cannot afford to
drown in misery when something goes wrong,
because you have to be a
strong personality in order to be able to give a victim of culttactics
a safe home.
Now my wish:
I wish
freedom of mind, freedom of speech and an own identity for every living
soul on earth.
In case of
people having lost this kind of freedom and their identity, I wish there
will be enough people
with the
power, will, knowledge, unconditioned positive attitude with the
persistence to keep on trying to
give these
people back what belongs to their existence as a human being.
Ocean spirit/Sjoukje
Drenth Bruintjes
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